It wasn’t until much later that I became aware of others having frustrations with sewing. I knew that being disappointed it can also lead to frustration. HOWEVER I thought that the frustration stemmed from not being able to fit patterns and thus not being happy with the finished garment after spending time, effort and money. In writing this series, many have shared with me in private emails and messages that this was in fact the case for them. However, I also learned from one woman that there is also a much deeper problem to address. I began this series not wanting to call “fitting issues” PROBLEMS. By calling something a “PROBLEM”, we automatically attach something negative to it and it becomes an issue we take personally. After speaking to the woman in Jo~ann Fabrics on the subject of “fitting”, I learned that there is more to the story. I learned that “fitting” really isn’t the only issue for some of you. As this kind soul shared, she used to sew EVERYTHING for she and her family. As she got older, her body changed. So I asked her if that was the reason she stopped sewing, that she had a hard time fitting her new shape? She said NO. She could fit her new shape just fine, it was that she didn’t like the way she looked in her sewn garments. She’s unhappy with herself and that she never had to deal with these issues when she was younger. I was shocked in what she revealed to me. The root of the problem is that she’s unhappy with her body and doesn’t enjoying the process of sewing for herself any longer.
I was somewhat blown away by her candid admission and although I don’t think that everyone feels this way, I can only take in what I learned and share it with YOU, my readers. Are there others that are avoiding the enjoyment of sewing because they’re unhappy with themselves? It was particularly sad for me to hear this because I get so much enjoyment out of my craft as well as teaching. I never thought there was a psychology to sewing other than the sheer joy I feel in creating something myself. In light of learning this information, I asked myself this question. “Do I feel I wasted my time writing and producing this series to help people?”. The answer is simply put, NO. I’ve received so many nice comments and support from many of you that I feel confident that my efforts were helpful and appreciated. I feel there are reasons for everything we do and even though there may be others that feel unhappy about sewing for themselves, not all of you do.
So in closing, I’m grateful for writing and learning through this series, but at the same time a little sad that some people may feel unhappy with sewing for themselves. I certainly hope that she was in the minority with her view of sewing. I can’t solve those issues for anyone. They have to be worked out by the individual, in their own time frame, through their own efforts. What I can and will continue to offer is good information to those that may change their minds and work through their issues. I will be here when they are ready and want to rejoin us and enjoy the art of sewing once again. I will always cheer everyone on, encourage you with your creations and continue to push your creativity to a new level.